As long as I can remember,I have always been a dreamer. I always dreamed about going to different places on my own without any supervision. Always dreamed about travelling to such places which aren’t typical famous tourist destinations. I want to go camping and sleep under the stars, just me, my backpack and nature.
As a woman who belongs to a typical Pakistani family, dream like this can highly likely just remain a dream forever. You get to hear things like, do whatever you wanna do but after marriage. But, who knows what kinda person you are marrying ? What if he doesn’t understand and support your dreams?. Then what ? I tell you what will happen then you will just have to forget about your dream and get busy in your married life because that’s what I have seen happening to countless of girls and I am afraid someday I will also become part of that crowd who had given up their dreams because of their husbands or kids.
For someone who have always lived her life under supervision, freedom to travel alone means a lot.I won’t malign my parents image by travelling alone. Most people think giving that much freedom to a girl is not ok and if a girl gets that much freedom then she can easily get out of control and then she will start wearing skimpy dresses, start drinking alcohol and will basically lose her sense of right and wrong. This mentality is so ingrained in our culture that even many of the so called modern men also have such views and that’s just sickening.
I don’t know why a woman who travel or study abroad is genarally not considered as a good girl. People are afraid we will become too ‘westernized’ and just abandon our culture and religion the moment we will set foot in a foreign soil. The absurdity of it all boggles my mind sometimes.
Let a girl dream. Support her dream. Help her to shine in this modern world. Trust her. She won’t abandon her values. Just give her the benifit of a doubt. She is a human being after all, who has a right to pursue her dreams. Don’t clip her wings. Let her fly.
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